B75 Trusting others is our default mode !

 We are poor judges of other people. We like to believe the most innocent of explanations. We "default to truth " even when it carries terrible risks.

We believe some one not because we don't have doubts, but because we don't have enough doubts to disbelieve and can't explain.

Some very interesting perspectives on human behaviour by Malcolm Gladwell in his book " Talking to Strangers: What we should know about the people we don’t know" (2019).

What really hit me were the lines "People who are victims of betrayal need our #empathy,not censure "

B74 Knowledge and Judgement

 

"You cannot judge any man beyond your knowledge of him,

and how small is your knowledge " Kahlil gibran.

With due respect to all the tools, technologies and #AI available,
holds true even today!

B73 Trying to change someone rarely results in change.

 "Trying to change someone rarely results in change.

On the other hand, engaging someone in a conversation
where mutual learning is the goal often results in change.

Because when we set out to try to change someone, we are more likely to argue with and attack their story and less likely to listen. This approach increases the likelihood that they will feel defensive rather than open to learning something new.

They are more likely to change if they think we understand them and if they feel heard and respected.

They are more likely to change if they feel free not to "

Source : Difficult conversations(1999)

This para has had a deep influence on how i approach my work and people .

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_aventuspartners-people-performance-activity-6680674699912990720-9rMA

B72 Accept and Face our Reality

 "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced " James Baldwin

He wrote this over 50 years back in the context of race relations in the USA .

We all need the courage as individuals , families , organisations and societies to "accept and face our realities" however uncomfortable , if we need to have any hope of changing our statusquo.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_people-performance-change-activity-6680454764959952896-AM9w

B71 Some things that are still uniquely human !

 There are still some things that are uniquely human !

Our ability to empathise, come up with new and creative solutions to challenges ,apply wisdom to specific contexts ( though it might seem illogical and against all data patterns) still set us apart clearly from the most advanced AI systems.

We are not competing with the machines . We just need to learn to use them intelligently like we have been doing with all innovations over the centuries to make human lives better, easier and happier.

Whether you are a farmer, a housekeeper, a blue collar worker , an investor, a manager , a doctor, a lawyer ..........

This is my response to the question i have been asked frequently in the last 2 months during my sessions on " Future of Work and impact on professionals" - "Will #Technology and #AI make jobs redundant "

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_technology-ai-aventuspartners-activity-6679224584337805313-qDQv

B70 Teaching and Discovering

 Things that are outside can be taught. Those within ,need to be discovered. Your purpose, motives, values...

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_selfawareness-purpose-development-activity-6678103323364741120-4XYz

B69 Goals not backed by Purpose

 Achieving goals which are not backed by purpose/meaning leaves us feeling unfulfilled after the euphoria dies down.

A purposeful goal alone does not lead to happiness. A person needs to also experience positive emotions in the process of achieving the goal.

Just because an activity is purposeful and evokes postive feelings does not mean you overdo it .

These and many more profound insights can be obtained in the book Happier by Tal Ben-Shaher 

Glad I read it . Strongly recommend this book. An audiobook too is available . It takes around 4 hours . Worth the investment of time !

B68 The Happiness Spiral :)

The more you help others , the happier you become. 

The more happier you become , the more you help others . 

A kind word of encouragement, a smile from the heart , a patient ear, a helping hand .. The possibilities are immense.

You can just start anytime , anywhere even when you think you have hit rock bottom.

It's a simple positive, upward spiral !

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_people-change-happiness-activity-6674128829507862528-p7C_

B67 We all Value Different things

We all value different things at different points in our life and best that we accept what others value without any judgement.

Read this from kahlil Gibran "Once a man unearthed in his field a marble statue of great beauty. And he took it to a collector who loved all beautiful things and offered it to him for sale, and the collector bought it for a large price. And they parted.

And as the man walked home with his money he thought, and he said to himself, “How much life this money means! How can anyone give all this for a dead carved stone buried and undreamed of in the earth for a thousand years?”

And now the collector was looking at his statue, and he was thinking, and he said to himself, “What beauty! What life! The dream of what a soul!—and fresh with the sweet sleep of a thousand years. How can anyone give all this for money, dead and dreamless?”

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_aventuspartners-people-values-activity-6673054774449057792-getI