B73 Trying to change someone rarely results in change.

 "Trying to change someone rarely results in change.

On the other hand, engaging someone in a conversation
where mutual learning is the goal often results in change.

Because when we set out to try to change someone, we are more likely to argue with and attack their story and less likely to listen. This approach increases the likelihood that they will feel defensive rather than open to learning something new.

They are more likely to change if they think we understand them and if they feel heard and respected.

They are more likely to change if they feel free not to "

Source : Difficult conversations(1999)

This para has had a deep influence on how i approach my work and people .

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/mpsriram_aventuspartners-people-performance-activity-6680674699912990720-9rMA