Conflict brings out the worst in us. People say and do things they regret, are not proud of and contrary to what they normally are.
We carry in our minds what people said and did to us while at their worst as well as feel ashamed of what we did at our worst.
A few things that I personally do and encourage others to do, to overcome these residual feelings.
1) Do not “attribute “motives /intent to their actions. Make an effort to understand them and their circumstances better. This helps us understand motives even if we don’t agree with it.
2) Tell yourself every time you see the individual or are reminded of the situation that the same “Divine spirit energy “flows through everyone. This makes you more compassionate.
3) Be grateful for the good that the individual has done to you. Am sure there will be at least one thing
4) And the most powerful healer , Seize the opportunity to do something useful for the other; be it the person with whom you behaved badly or those who behaved badly with you. This paves the path for forgiveness.
It works ! As humans , we all long to be at peace with ourselves and with each other.
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👍🏼"overcome these residual feelings" .. not easy one, but clear your thinking process help to relax and be calm.
"clear your thinking process and help to relax and be calm " are for sure the short term benefits , you will notice that by doing these 4 things consistently the residual feelings do go away to a considerable extent over time .
I am writing this based on personal experience.
"It is human to err but divine to forgive." Forgiving someone for what they said or did isn't always easy –Honestly, it can be very hard. But then, if you CAN forgive, let go, and move on from hurt, resentment, and anger, you feel redeemed.
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